Most of us are taught to pay attention to what is said—the words. Words do provide us with

Most of us are taught to pay attention to what is said—the words. Words do provide us with some information, but meanings are (1)_____ from so many other sources that it would hinder our effectiveness (2)_____ a partner to a relationship to rely too heavily on words (3)_____ Words are used to describe only a small part of the many ideas we associate with any given (4)_____. Sometimes we can gain insight into some of those (5)_____ if we listen for (6)_____ words. We don"t always say what we mean (7)_____ mean what we say. Mostly we mean several things at once. A person wanting to purchase a house says to the current owner. "This step has to be fixed before I"ll buy". The owner says, "It"s been like that for years". (8)_____, the step hasn"t been like that for years, but the (9)_____ message is: "I don"t want to fix it. We can put up with it why can"t you？" The (10)_____ for a more expansive view of meaning can be developed by examining a message (11)_____ who said it, when it occurred, the (12)_____ conditions or situation, and how it was said.

When a message occurs can also (13)_____ associated meaning. A friend"s unusually docile behavior. may only be understood by (14)_____ that it was preceded by situations that required a(n) (15)_____ amount of assertiveness.

We would do well to listen for how message are (16)_____ The words, "it sure has been nice to have you over", can be said with (17)_____ and excited or ritualistically. The phrase can be said once or (18)_____ several times. And the meaning we associate with the phrase will change (19)_____ Sometimes if we say something infrequently it assumes more importance; sometimes the more we say something the (20)_____ importance it assumes.

A．omitted

B．resulted

C．dismissed

D．derived

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